By Susn Dybvik
Turning 25 feels like a milestone, just like turning 18 was one, and so was 20. Back then it was a milestone because I was finally free to do whatever I wanted. I could buy alcohol, I could get into any club I wanted and I was officially an “adult”. I could finally drive a car, and take a political stand. But what I have come to realize is that I was far from an adult. I had all these expectations of being one, but I was still young, in my mind and in my behaviour. I find it kind of funny when people talk about maturity, because maturity comes with experience’s, which in most cases comes with age. When I was 16 I thought I knew everything, and at 25 I understand I know nothing. But looking back at my 25 years of life, I have gotten some serious lessons that I wouldn’t be without. 25 are a milestone because I feel like a Woman. I am spiritually and physically maturing. All my choices right or wrong has made me into the person I am today, and I like whom I am. And I love whom I am growing into. I´ve learned to stand up for myself, to trust my instinct. I have learned not to let people walk all over me, and I´ve learned that I am much stronger than I thought I was. I have gotten to know myself, and to love myself. I see achievements and beauty when I look in the mirror, not faults and disappointments. My values have changed, and so has my morals. I don’t have time for drama, others or mine, and I respect myself enough to take myself out of any situation that is depriving me of growth and happiness. I am glad I am growing older; because I know I will only continue to grow, and best of all continue to learn.
We keep waiting for our lives to start, waiting for that time in the future when everything will be right and we will be happy. And we forget to that life is happening right now; we only get one chance, so why not risk it? Why not hold out for the best? Why not get what we deserve?
There is no point in comparing ourselves with others, because we have our own story to tell, our own path to walk. So find good people that will lift you up and support you, let them walk beside you. The rest is just background noise.
One of the most important things I have learned is that you have to let things go. Holding on to something that doesn’t give you any happiness or joy will eat you up inside. Don’t hold on to people who doesn’t want to be in your life, and don’t hold on to pain, because it will hurt you even more. Don’t hold on to anger, its poisoning. Free yourself and you will find peace. We can only be affected by things we let affect us. You always have a choice; to how people treat you, to who you let into your life and how you react or don’t react. And most times, the right path is also the hardest.
If there was something I could tell my younger self it would be that everything will be alright, just keep moving. Listen to your inner voice and be brave. And don’t be afraid to stand alone! Oh, and spend your money wisely, invest in yourself! (No not in material things, but things that can actually be beneficial to your growth).
So cheers to a good and long life, and to not knowing anything!